Recent news of Jack Neo’s infidelity (dominating the headlines in Asia) probably lead many of us to ask the question, why do men cheat on their partners? Here are the top 10 reasons most commonly cited:
1. Because he can
This is probably the most straightforward reason. Because he can. Put it this way, if you put a piece of the best tuna steak in front of the best trained cat in the world, the cat will still eat the fish when no one is looking.
2. Because cheating boost his ego
Some studies suggest that men are born hunters. Men need the thrill of the chase to see the fulfilling adrenaline rush, and a successful hunt will boost his ego. Men who are in relationships for many years tend to feel bored and may even think that they are becoming less attractive to the opposite sex. Using the cat and tuna example, if a tuna jumps towards the cat itself willingly, this trigger the thought in the man’s mind that he is wanted and it will bring out the hunter (or some say devil horns) in him.
3. You drifted apart
As his partner, you used to love to play that World of Warcraft game with him. Or you used to cheer the same football/soccer team with your guy. But since don’t know when, you are no longer interested in all his hobbies or toys or interests. This is the time that Men are vulnerable and just like cats who want to play, if any one else come along and would like to play with them at this moment, you would have lost him.
4. He no longer loves you forever
When Men no longer love their existing partners, they will immediately start to look outwards for alternatives. Even though they may still be physically staying with you out of responsibilities or commitments, do not cross your fingers or hope for the best. If they are not cheating, they are probably planning to consciously or not.
5. You start to have a lot of arguments and quarrels
To Men who are mostly creatures of ego, constant bickering and disagreements with him is a sure way to push him away to the arms of someone else.
6. Your sex life is non-existent
There is the saying that Men think with their loins. And to many Men, love is expressed through sex. If there is no longer any passion in your relationship, there is no love for him, and therefore there is a high chance that he is getting his passion ignited by someone else.
7. He is looking for excitement (attention)
Some people suggested that this could be the reason Men cheat with people that many other people think are less attractive then their existing partner. These other women could even be their domestic help or maids. The other women tend to lavish him with much more attention, or simply making more visible efforts. The Men, especially those who do not have enough hobbies to distract him will bound to get bored and become distracted.
8. Just trying
Sometimes, keeping bad company do lead Men astray. When his friends are geting away with it, or if he see his parents doing it in the past, he may just want to try to see if he pull it off as well.
9. If you’ve allow him to cheat on you before
This may sound strange, but there are women who know that their husbands/partners are cheating but actually choose to close one eye, i.e. to let him do it without kicking up a fuss (for the sake of children, finance, family pressure). And if Men has done it before and was forgiven in the process, he will very likely attempt cheating on his partner again, and again.
10. If you cheated on him before
To Men, he simply wants to exact revenge. You may not have actually cheated and he may just be acting on a hunch. Once he feels like there is injustice, he will embark on a campaign to cheat you back.
bron: www.wayangtimes.com [8-3-2010]
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